Monday, February 11, 2008

The end of a hobby

My husband and I had one hobby we shared. I'm more of a nature girl, you know horse back riding, nature photography, and hiking. He is more of a motor head, race cars, four wheelers and such. Our second date was riding four wheelers at the sand dunes on the coast.

We sold that four wheeler to buy our first house eleven years ago.

Three years ago when he suggested we buy two more I was ok with it. I wanted to find a common interest that we would both be into and I always loved going fast.
I got a nice white and purple Suzuki, it was mine, all mine and I loved it.

I loved going fast and jumping. I could keep up with the boys.

Now, I understood how dangerous it could be.

But I chose to take a calculated risk. I figured I was cautious and therefore I would be safe.
My boy loved riding too, he wanted his own someday. I was ok with that too, this was a family affair, we would all be into this sport.

Then this last July a very dear friend of mine. Someone who was just like me, kept up with the boys, but cautious and good at riding. She nearly lost her life when she crashed. She had more surgeries than I can count, and I'll never forget the look on her husbands face when he told us.
"I looked at my three month old baby and thought, no he can't be without his mom"

I thought about my own boy and then about my "calculated"risk.

I couldn't get on that four wheeler again. I couldn't risk it, I didn't want my son to grow up risking it either.

So this month we sold our quads and their trailer. I'm on to other hobbies, maybe I'll take up horseback riding again, or maybe I'll just stick to photography.


Michele (Rocky Mtn.Girl) said...

You sound like a woman of many many talents. Photography is definitely one of them. Writing is another. I've always wanted to ride a horse but have been a little nervous. Do you have horses of your own or just lots of horses in the area?

Huckdoll said...

It's amazing how one puts life in perspective!

I've never really done anything too daring, but I would have probably made the same move as you did in this scenario.

Thanks for sharing. The pictures are beautiful!

Mama Zen said...

I know exactly what you mean. Some things that used to seem just fine to me now seem a little risky and selfish.

Nap Warden said...

I know exactly what you mean...Makes you look at life in a whole different way.

Julie B said...

I can so relate...I think everything changes when you have children and nothing is worth the risk of ever being apart from them.

I am glad you made the decision you sister's friend just lost her son on one of those and it completely changed my opinion of them (I had always wanted one growing up).

I have to agree with the others who said that photography is definitely a talent you should stick with!